a - 14 june 2001
From: Anne
Sent: Thursday, June 14, 2001 3:03 PM
Subject: Sakes alive, a MAN!
Hello, Michele!
I got the e-card of Mr. Vosloo. Oh my goodness gracious! I do NOT think he is scary. I think that SEXY is the correct word. He’s so big and manly! And with no shirt on and that band around his arm he looks so PRIMAL. (GRRROWL!!) I would make that picture my desk wallpaper if my computer wasn’t so public! (At my old job, I’d printed a picture of Brad Pitt from the Net and hung it up. Some older guy asked seriously if that was my man. I wish!) Heck, I might do it anyway!
So it’s humid there too? Years ago, I always thought of Northern states as being perpetually cold. (Well, I didn’t know any better!) To educate me: is it often humid there? And how hot does it get - on the average - during the summer? Here in late summer it’ll stay in the 90’s. (In this office it feels like the low 60’s but that’s a good thing: I’m still thinking of that picture!! WOO HOO!)
As a waitress, I trained a lady one evening and she never returned! (I think her name was Betty as well!) The boss jokingly (?) asked what I did to her. I can relate to your job turn-over woes: so many people would come and go at those restaurants. I’ve always considered myself a sticker-to-it (Stick-to-it-er? One that sticks? WHATEVER!). Wait a mo … on my first job ever I was a telemarketer. My first day, I was to sit in a smoky, small room where the others were calling people, and I had to sit in the middle of the room and read aloud over and over the "speech" that we were to give. I was off the next day and the more I thought of it, the more that I couldn’t stand going back for another day! So I called and quit that evening. But since then, I have stayed with all of my jobs for quite a while. Maybe it’s like Kenny Rogers says, "you’ve got to know when to hold ‘em/ know when to fold ‘em. / Know when to walk away / know when to run."
Before I burst into song, I’ll move on. I fully agree with your answer to my dating question, and I *have* considered before how I would feel if the situation was reversed. Reading your comments, I thought again that I would feel beyond awful (in the reverse scenario) and it’s absolutely not fair to use someone to buy you dinner or whatever. I guess that’s the main reason that I just can’t accept that "date them all one time" philosophy. In addition, I know that I wouldn’t want to be part of some guy’s dating "harem." If he was going out with me I would hope that he would not be asking out every other girl he met! As you said, I would want to be attracted to him and I would want him to be attracted to me. What a concept! Really liking the one you’re going out with!
I also agree that is isn’t just about physical attractiveness. I thought that Ray was very attractive, but it’s NOT ENOUGH if that’s his main/only good quality! One guy that used to work here, Darrell, was by NO means a Trent (ooh! or an Arnold Vosloo!) , but when I got to know him, I developed quite a crush on him. He was so fun and confident and positive and nice! And smart! And a Christian! But he had one huge bad point: a wife. (Sickening, isn’t it?) Nothing ever happened with him - as it absolutely should not have - but I sure did like to talk to him! He saw my driver’s license picture one time and he said that I looked "good - almost datable." I told him that when that pic was taken I didn’t have a boyfriend, so that’s probably why I looked so happy!
Wow, I miss Darrell! The guy that took his place is retired from one company, and is your basic know-it-all snob. Why couldn’t he be one of those two-day people? At least he only works part-time.
My pushy friend, whose name is Michelle BTW but she goes by Chell, has been married for about six years. She’s been living in other states for many years now. I lost touch with her for a while, so I can only assume she practiced as she preaches. (Although I refuse to believe she went out with EVERYONE who asked. That would be ridiculous!) I know that getting married was very important to her - I would have considered her one that felt incomplete without a man. Sometimes when I listen to her being so negative and pushy, I truly wonder how she got a reasonably nice guy to marry her! I’m guessing that she’s not like that around him, but how can she not be? I think it’s her nature. But I think that she is happily married. That and the fact that marriage was/is so important to her are why I think she hates to see me alone. She doesn’t understand how someone can be happy without a man. With my experiences I should wonder how someone can be happy WITH a man! (lol)
I also often wondered how the wives of other great guys I know got those guys to marry them. HOW?! They need to write a book, because I truly cannot fathom it. A big part of it is probably that they only dated guys they thought were outstanding. (Aha! So there’s another vote for dating only those to whom we are attracted!) As I wrote that, I thought, "That sounds great! I will only date guys that I think are outstanding!" I believe I mentioned last time that my next date WILL BE with someone that I am attracted to! Or it simply will not be!
I could hardly believe your latest Chaz tales: I used to be Anonymous Note Girl myself. I don’t believe I ever admitted sending a note. I left one in a guy’s locker once telling him to "feel free to call me sometime." I didn’t put my name because I felt that we were sharing meaningful glances in the hall between classes so I knew that he’d know it was me. <insert shaking head in pity here> I know what you mean: it seems like such a good idea! Then there’s the panic factor, after it’s done.
And I was inspired by the Christmas card story - what a great way to start a conversation with someone particularly about Jesus! I would like to see the lyrics to that song - Cantus.
That’s it for now. Talk to you later! God bless!
Anne
