Chix Chat

From: Anne
Sent: Wednesday, June 20, 2001 3:56 PM
Subject: Thanks for stopping by!

Hello, Michele!
 
Happy mid-week! I hope that you’re having a good one so far!
 
Y’all are really on a hiring spree there! Is that a big and/or really busy store, or do you just need people because you don’t have enough to start with? (Or is it a combination of both?)Are all of the new people doing okay? Here at work, one of my bosses is going to India (where she is originally from) for five weeks. (I’m pausing here to do the Dance of Joy.)
 
Thanks for checking out my web site! I am trying to put interesting things on it (no, really, I am!) but few people send feedback of any kind! Thanks especially for reading the service page - I know it’s kinda long. I waited tables for about six years and during that time I would venture to say that at least one person was rude every day that I worked! I honestly believe that some bored and sadistic individuals would come to the restaurant only to be mean and boss the waitress around! Every customer wasn’t like that, but the mean ones really stick out it my mind. I did NOT like that job, but again it must have been God’s plan for me to be there. I’m so glad that I’m not there anymore and that is an understatement!
 
I know that it’s not just servers that have SERVICE! stories. Did you see what my boss said about my hair after my new perm? (How could it be anything but an insult?) If you have any stories that I could post, send them along!
 
I love FoxTrot! I know a guy that reminds me of Jason Fox - my friend’s name is Jason too. He wears glasses just like the comic guy, and is just about as funny! I also like the comic "Heart of the City" which I hadn’t seen until I found that site (the one without Dilbert). There is a cool way to edit those cartoons: I save the picture on my computer and open it in Paint. I’ve played around with this (a lot) and can change what they say - I’m sending you some old examples. It helps to work in Large mode: you can cut, copy and paste the text and move the letters around. It’s a fun project if you have time!
 
Re: meeting Steven Curtis Chapman - he was so nice! He had his lovely wife with him: drag. Like you said, WHERE is the guy like that for me?
 
Talking about lists of wants in men, this is what I have in mind: Christian, good career, non-smoker, non-drinker, non-druggie, no kids, no ex-wife, (no current wife!), tall, manly, smart, confident, funny, nice, and models underwear for Calvin Klein. Is that too much to ask? (LOL … twice!) Seriously, you said that I shouldn’t rule people out. I guess that’s true, but this list is kind of my starting point. I heard somewhere that everyone has a "type" until they fall in love with someone that’s just the opposite. That’s probably true - it goes back to trying to do things our own way instead of God’s way. I might say, "I want a Calvin Klein underwear model," and I might miss the perfect Darrell-type guy who just happened to not model underwear for CK. That’s a - ridiculous - example, but I guess you see my point. Still, I think it’s good to have an idea of what you want, and to know which qualities are non-negotiable!
 
Let’s see, the last time Ray called he was at a motel - he said he’d been living there for a few months. But right before he disappeared and I left The Message, he’d been living with her and the kids for months. He didn’t even tell me about it for a while. As I said, at that point it was just another log in a huge pile of crap. (How’s that for imagery? Pretty accurate I’d say!) He said there was nothing going on. Well, he also said that he would give up smoking and pot, and he said that he "occasionally" drank and "not that much" … Liar, Liar, pants on fire!! To answer your questions, he is 38, and his kids are 18, 16, 13, and 10, if I remember correctly. Yep - teenagers. (Shudder! Cringe! Hurl!) His oldest just graduated. When he called last he said she had asked if she should send me an invitation to her graduation. I’m glad she didn’t! Have I mentioned lately that I am so glad to be out of that mess? PRAISE THE LORD!
 
I got your email to Erin. There was a lot of truth in it! Sometimes I briefly regret the time I wasted with Ray, especially when I beat myself up because I should have known better!! But, I have to believe that it’s part of God’s plan.
 
I know exactly what you mean about the sexual Christian / sexual virgin issues. (Talk about an oxymoron!) It’s a tricky subject to say the least. I am a virgin too (I thought that my sister and I were the last ones!) and like you said, I’m proud of it! I mean being a virgin is a choice that we make; we *could* be out there doing everyone under the sun but I’m sure that wouldn’t be what we needed. And I know what you mean - I don’t want people to think I’m some naive/holier-than-thou prude. That also irks me: when people hear that you’re a virgin, they think, "What’s wrong with her?" Nothing’s wrong! We just have standards. I heard a good thought on that, which a virgin could say to a non-virgin: "I could become like you any day, but you can never become like me." You know it’s true!
 
I will confess that I’m very deeply ashamed to say that I’ve "messed around" with too many losers. I don’t even know why! Especially when I had no intention of having sex - talk about a mixed message! Straddling the fence (pardon the phrasing) is another sure way to be unhappy - either be good or "bad," but you can’t be both! This is why I think it’s important for Christians to date Christian men with similar values. These days, I really try to look at being single as a blessing: I’d much rather be alone than be with the wrong one!! I try to remember that God has a perfect plan and it will happen at the right time, so I don’t have to worry about it! I can be happy in the mean time and when it happens, I can be happy then too!
 
Let me climb off of my soap box. I’m mainly talking to myself - I’m pretty hard on myself for behaving so stupidly! I’ve thought before that I can chalk my past experiences up to something that I must have had to learn the hard way. To be sure, now I am definitely resolved to be good: that’s really all I can do since I can’t change the past! Sometimes still when I think of those "bad" times my hand instinctly covers my face in shame. Do you know what I mean? If you don’t, you should praise the Lord! I mentioned that my sister was jealous of guys asking me out: what’s to envy about wasting time dating a gaggle of guys not one of whom was right for me? I guess that’s the whole grass-is-greener philosophy again!
 
It is really easy to write to you! I start off thinking, "I’ll just jot down a few thoughts that I want to include," and before I know it I’ve rambled on about myself usually - sorry! - for many paragraphs. I hope that you, like me, are fascinated with other people’s lives! Plus it’s so nice to talk to someone who actually seems to listen: I sincerely appreciate that, Michele!
 
That’s about it for now. Talk to you later! God bless!
Anne