a - 22 june 2001
From: Anne
Sent: Friday, June 22, 2001 2:15 PM
Subject: Calgon! Take me away!
Hello, Michele!
I’m with you on that ordering on-line thing. I’m still leery of sharing my credit card number! I have ordered on-line one time from *****.com. I bought a set of Buffy video tapes which they had to "backorder." It took about eight weeks for me to receive them! On the up-side, the tapes were about $10 cheaper than if I’d bought them at the store. How is amazon.com with delivering things? Can they ship stuff in less than 8 weeks? 
I like *your* list of desirable man-qualities! I’m thinking of revising mine! For sure, he will have to have his priorities straight! In a word, my guy will have to be wonderful.
Like you said, I think it’s highly unlikely to say the least to find a guy who’s a virgin. That isn’t very high on my priority list in a man either, although it would be really something special to find a guy who had the cajones to wait until he found The One.
Speaking of virgins, I did not know that there were so many famous virgins! I read recently that Mandy Moore (the singer) is a virgin. I was blown away! She is dating that hunky guy from 98 degrees! Apparently they are waiting until they get married. "Well, shut my mouth and call me ‘blabby’!" :O
From what you wrote about your cousin, it does sound like her marriage could definitely be heading for trouble! I agree that it is very important for couples especially newly married couples to spend time together. Spending so much time apart is just an invitation for trouble! And I agree: I would WANT to spend time with my new husband! You said that maybe she wanted a wedding and not a marriage. I read an article about marriage a while back and that was a question to ask if you were thinking about marrying a guy: how do you picture your day to day life AFTER the ceremony and are you excited about life after the ceremony. I’ve done that before - got really excited thinking about walking down the aisle and seeing my guy at the end of the aisle in a tux waiting for me, but then I’d think, "Then what?" I bet that a lot of couples fall into that trap; they really want to be "married" - like that is a complete finished thing - and they have delusions that it’s gonna be absolutely perfect. Then they get married and there are good but also bad points that they weren’t expecting so maybe they start doubting and may even wonder if it was a mistake. ("The grass may be greener on the other side, but it still has to be mowed.") I don’t know if that’s the case with your cousin. Are you very close to her? I was gonna suggest talking to her, but then again, even if you’re very close, that’s a sensitive subject!
Also on the subject of marriage: a (happily) married Christian man told me that just because you’re married doesn’t mean that you’re never attracted to anyone else. (I may have told you that before.) I was really shocked by that, and I think a lot of people don’t realize that either. The more I think about it, the more sense it makes. Even now, we find ourselves attracted to a variety of people. When we’re married, I don’t imagine that just shuts off! I guess that’s another reason marriage is such a big deal, you promise to forsake all others, even the other ones you’re attracted to. But I can see how strong attractions to other people might make a person doubt his/her marriage.
That’s about it for now. I am working on that All About Moi list and will send it to you today!
Have a great weekend! God bless!
Anne
