a - 25 june 2001
From: Anne
Date: Monday, June 25, 2001 4:13 pm
Subject: It’s a V thang!
Hello, Michele!
I was sorry to read that you had a backache. I don’t claim to know much about that: I tweaked my back a little one time after a shift at the paint store and I could not get comfortable at all the next day. Just from that little pain I felt huge sympathy for people with back problems. You say it just goes out on you sometimes? That’s got to be inconvenient and painful!
What a weekend I had! I call it a lost weekend because I worked most of it at inventories. I had two gigs on Saturday for a total of about 13 hours and then nine hours (and change) yesterday. Of course this is the weekend before I have a test on Wednesday! Most of the time I don’t work nearly that much and that’s the way I like it! We were doing a huge department store - people from other districts came to help us. And there he was! Jason, easily one of the most attractive/sexy man that I know in real life. He used to work with our district until he became a manager with another. I’d forgotten about him - why did I not consider that he might be there? So there I am with no makeup and a messy, falling down, been-workin-all-day hairdo! (And if I’d looked okay, what would I have done? The same thing I did: looked at him, then averted my eyes and walked on past, too shy to speak.) It’s very good that he doesn’t work with us anymore because I don’t think I have that much self control. I don’t know if he would be attracted to me, but I’d sure give it a shot! And of course he’s one of those completely wrong types: party-er, smoker, drinker, and who knows what else ……… Give me a moment, I’m thinking of the What Else …. depressed sigh…. Sometimes being good really womps! Just kidding.(?)
Okay, I’m back. I will definitely check out Amazon.com for my next on-line shopping needs, thanks to your glowing recommendation! How long does a back-order usually take? Do they often have to "back-order" or is a lot of stuff already in stock?
WHERE did you hear that Brittney and Justin T are V’s - virgins?!??!!?!?!! I just can’t imagine … Writing that just now, I see that I was talking about Jessica Simpson! (oops!) *She’s* the one dating the hunky guy from 98 degrees. I don’t know much about Mandy Moore; she does seem like Miss Goody-Two-Shoes, but who knows? It is refreshing to see famous people choosing to wait. I know they’re just people like the rest of us, but if they take a stand like that they risk losing popularity which could be fatal to their careers.
I agree with your "babbling" i.e. thoughts about how it’s cool to wait. I also think that it’s sad that people sleep around to gain acceptance or to try to keep a boy/girlfriend or for whatever reason. I know if I had ever slept with a guy, I’d have been beyond devastated when we broke up. I imagine that other people are as well. Especially women who like you said believe some guy’s empty promises and the women think it means something and then find out otherwise. I think these same women probably turn bitter and cold because of it. There’s just so much less to worry about if you don’t do it!
Those are good questions from Dr. McGraw. I agree with you that most people these days take marriage way too casually. If they even consider the possibility of their marriage failing, they think, "Oh, I’ll just get a divorce." It’s not that simple. I’m only guessing of course, but I imagine there is such a sense of failure. I’d be thinking things like, "How could I be so WRONG? Why couldn’t we work it out? Am I unlovable? Will I ever find The One?" And it would be so painful - this one that you formerly loved so much and wanted a life with forever is now leaving and doesn’t love you anymore. (How …?) Now I’m rambling - I consider myself a pretty empathetic person, so I really try to imagine how I’d feel. (Or maybe I’m just selfish, always bringing the subject back to myself…) People should definitely think of the practical day-to-day things when considering marriage, because they’ll have to think of them sooner or later.
I agree that *everyone* has the potential to cheat, certainly no one is immune! And I fully agree that it is VERY IMPORTANT to not put yourself in that situation! I like the lose weight/candy in the cupboard example; I’m sure I’ll use that in the future! I don’t think you’re being pessimistic at all. I’d say it’s very realistic, but like I mentioned before I don’t think most people think about these things and they should. (I also really liked the Mitch/Arnold example. I’m pausing here to think of the picture of Arnold in his Mummy Returns outfit ……………………. Oh my!!!!!)
You said that we probably know more than a lot of people in relationships: I agree! Hey! Maybe that’s why we’re still single: God is trying to show us important things to consider. Maybe soon we’ll get to test out our theories. 
That’s about it for now. Talk to you later. God bless! (Feel better!)
Anne
New questions answered
favorite magazine(s)- Readers Digest, Cosmopolitan (my sister buys it), Architectural Digest (makes feel very cultured)
coke or pepsi?- Coke
favorite 80’s song(s)- I love the 80s music! Babe (Styx), And We Danced (?), Angel (Aerosmith), heck - anything by Aerosmith, anything by the Police (especially "Every Breath You Take"), anything by Bon Jovi … Note: This is *not* a complete favorites list - there’s not enough time!
what was your graduation song? I think they wrote one - I don’t remember it! Our senior prom song was "Here and Now" by Luther Vandross.
If your car radio or walkman or stereo is set for 6 stations, what are they? 1) 99.1 WAHR Soft Rock 2)104.3 WXYP Pop/Rock/Top 40, 3)101.1 "The Spot" Top 40 4)102.1 WDRM country music 5)93.3 "Mix 93"- Music from the 70’s and 80’s (I love this one!) 6) 97.7 - Contemporary Christian
music you hate- gangster rap, anything Marylin Manson (double puke), headbanging, heavy metal music. (I fully agree!)
do you smoke? No
first crush on real life person- Heath when I was about 12
very first cassette tape- I think it was Permanent Vacation (Aerosmith)
do you still keep in touch with your high school friends? no
pets you’ve had and have- we have always had cats - too many to list! For the last sixteen years, they’ve been outside cats. We currently have three grown cats - Bobo, Peepers, and Teenie Bean. They all have kittens: Angel, BJ, Brownie, Spot, Bandit, Boots, Fuzzy Face, PJ, and three babies of Teenie Bean’s that we haven’t seen up close and haven’t named yet.
Additions
allergic to anything? Not that I know of
favorite sports/team? I like figure skating. No favorite teams. I like to play volleyball and softball, but I don’t get the chance to very much.
what’s the best dream that you remember? I actually just had a great one! I was with Dru and Spike (they’re Buffy tVS vampires) and I was trying to run away in my underwear. Suddenly Spike had a hold of me with both arms wrapped around my, uh, upper torso with my arms pinned. He turned me around to make me look (at where I’d just been running from) and there were decorations (I think) with signs and streamers and I can’t recall exactly what, but I remember being so moved because it was beautiful and he did it just for me. I was thinking about how good it felt with him holding me for the rest of the day, and I thought, "Man! I want that!!" It was tender - like I had been running from him, but he cared and meant me no harm. (In the series, Spike has unrequited love for Buffy.)
