Chix Chat

From: Michele
Sent: Monday, June 25, 2001 11:06 PM
Subject: OW! MY ACHING BACK!

Hi Anne!
 
Well, my stupid backache came back on Saturday morning.  I had to leave work early.  Thank God we weren’t very busy and there were already two people there.  I spent the rest of Sat and all of Sunday flat on my back (ha-ha).  When I went to work today, the pain was mostly all gone but I still felt very uncomfortable.  I’d been taking tylenol and Cindy (one of my co-workers) suggested advil.  So I popped a few of those suckers and as of  right now my back feels fine.  (mental note to self- advil for back pain!)  I know what part of the problem might be.  My periods late.  I used to be really irregular, but then I went on the pill (me on the pill.  How ironic!) but I had to be taken off of it (its a long story).  That was about ten years ago and now my periods are pretty regular, but if I’m late or if I skip a month, my whole body goes out of wack.  I just hope I get the stupid thing soon! 
 
Most things are in stock at amazon.com.  The only reason why that book is on back order is because it hasn’t been released yet.  They try to be as up to date as possible.  I did try to order a book (The Mummy) and it was no longer available.  That’s the only time I couldn’t get what I wanted.  I was reading my Foxtrot book I bought the other day (Foxtrot En Masse) and nearly wet myself laughing at the one comic.  Peter had broken up with his girlfriend, Denise and was in a pretty foul mood.  Jason was sitting on the couch and Peter said something like "get out of my seat" and pulled him off the couch.  So in the next panel Jason says to the mom "Why is Peter being such a jerk?"  to which the mom replies "He broke up with Denise." Third panel- Jason says "He broke up with Denise? Wow."  Mom says, " ‘wow’ is right.  So keep that in mind the next time you two cross paths."  The final panel has Jason sitting on the couch again and Peter saying, "I thought I told you to get out of my seat!" and Jason saying "So how’s your love life, Tiger?"    ROTFL!  That’s so true because what 10-year-old is going to care that his 16-year-old brother broke up with his girlfriend? It also cracks me up when Jason chases Paige around the house with Quincy. 
 
I understand how you felt when you saw Jason and you didn’t look your best.  I remember one time I waited on Chaz and here I was, wearing my funky glasses, my hair pulled up in this lopsided ponytail and I had a huge zit on my chin.  I didn’t feel my most attractive that day!  Needless to say, he still smiled at me and all that, but I lamented it was a "mercy smile".  You know, ‘be nice to the ugly’ day.    Yeah, Jason sounds like bad news.  Why do bad boys seem more appealing? I’ve been attracted to my share of "bad boys".  I guess its another one of those laws of nature.
 
I found out about Brittany and Justin being virgins over the internet.  I’ve read it several times so it must be true.  You commented that celebrities who take a stand like that risk losing their popularity- I think its the other way around.  I think celebrities who are virgins are great role models for young women (and men).  They might lose popularity among their peers, but I think the majority of their audience will respect and admire them. 
 
I’ve seen the consequences of not only premarital sex but also premarital sex when you’re barely old enough to grasp what it is you’re actually doing.  When I went to high school, I think I was the only virgin out of all of my friends.  Here I was when I started high school, coming from a little Catholic grade school and I was shocked that some of my new friends were already having sex (at 14!)  One of my friends, Jackie, got pregnant and had an abortion.  That was 12 years ago.  I wonder if she ever thinks about it.  Then my other friend, Justina got pregnant and kept her baby.  Even though I knew sex this young wasn’t right, I still felt kinda "out of it".  I mean while the majority of girls my age were talking about things like condoms and ‘bjs’, I was still sleeping with a teddy bear and watching Saturday morning cartoons.  I was beginning to have sexual feelings but it was all new and weird for me.   Now, nearly 14 years later as a woman, I know that no girl at 14 or 15 or 16 can experience the emotions and the pleasure that a woman can have from having sex.  I feel sorry for all my friends who never realized how much they should have held on to their childhoods.  And I’m glad I held onto mine as long as I could.  And I cherish the modesty and innocence I still have in me. I haven’t seen my friends since high school and sometimes I wonder- "How many divorces, abortions, broken hearted children, empty lives (etc) have resulted from that one choice they made when they were fourteen?"  Maybe some women our age, women who’ve had their share of sexual partners, aren’t even enjoying sex anymore.  They’re bored with it.  Not me!  I’ve had 28 years of sexual energy pent up inside me, and I’m sure it will get me through at least 50 years of marriage!
 
One more thing about the dangers of young sex- we both mentioned that we seem to know more than most people in relationships do.  theat reminded me- when I was in 10th grade I brought a YM magazine to school with me.  There was a 10 question quiz in it "How Much do you know about sex"  I remember two of the questions were "Can you get pregnant if you have sex doing your period?" and "Can you get pregnant if the guy pulls out before he climaxes?"  The answer is yes to both questions.  Anyway, I got 8 out of 10 right.  Four of my non-virgin friends took it and they each got three right.  They were really impressed that I got almost all of them right.  My one friend, Kim said to me a bit sheepishly, "You’re the smart one.  ITs kinda stupid of me to even be doing something I hardly know about."  I wasn’t a Christian then so I had the idea that I would "save myself" until I was in love.  Then at 18 when I accepted Christ, I truly understood why I was to save myself for my husband.  Love alone wasn’t enough.  Now I needed a ring on my finger too!
 
Ok, Ok, I know I’m rambling on here so I’ll shut up!
 
I feel another must-do-before-you-get-married-thing is at least six months of pre-marriage counseling.  So I guess I can’t really run off and get married.  Another piece to the Kristen/Keith equation: they did go through pre-marriage counseling but they fought it tooth and nail.  I remember Kristen commented that it was "stupid." Bad sign.
 
Oh yes I can imagine that there is a sense of failure when a marriage ends.  Cindy Morgan sings a song called "The Promise"  and its about the heartache of divorce and how God can pick up the pieces and help someone to move on from it.  ITs a very emotional song.  Although I haven’t been personally touched by a divorce, many in my family have and when I hear that song, I think about them.  I have 8 cousins on my dad’s side and two cousins on my mom’s side.  All girls (!)  and between all my ten cousins there have been six divorces.  Plus two of my aunts got divorced, so that’s eight divorces in my family.  I sometimes wonder if God has a special purpose for me- that I am the one to show and teach my family how a true marriage is supposed to be.  Maybe that’s why there isn’t anyone in my life right now, because God is preparing both me and my future husband for our treasured relationship.  If that’s the case, I feel so honored that God chose me.
 
I’m glad you like my lose weight/candy and Mitch/Arnold examples.  As a writer I tend to use colorful analogies like that.  Its the easiest way to get my point across.  Yeah, Arnold did look mighty fine in that teeny outfit in The Mummy.  The second one too.  I even heard rumors that there might be a third Mummy.  Sigh!  Another chance to see a half-naked Arnold?  Bring it on!
 
Here are my answers to the added questions and a few new questions:
 
allergic to anything- never until last year.  I broke out in these awful hives and I think it was from eating strawberries.  It never happened before, but needless to say I don’t eat strawberries anymore!
 
favorite sports/teams- I don’t watch much sports, but I do enjoy hockey sometimes (when The Pens are winning!)  I also like figure skating and gymnastics.  I love watching the summer/winter olympics.
 
best dream- I’ve had many "best dreams" concerning men who I’m attracted to.  Lately I’ve been dreaming about Arnold (gee, what a surprise!).  IT doesn’t take a genius to guess what we’re doing in the dreams.  Hmm …. maybe that’s why my back went out on me! (lol)
 
New questions-
 
You see your best friends boyfriend with another girl.  Do you tell your friend?-  No.  She might not believe me.  Let her find out on her own.  However if she says to me "I think Tom (or Dick or Harry) is cheating on me, I would reply "You’re probably right."
 
You have access to a time machine. Where (or when, rather) would you like to go?- medieval times, witness the birth of Christ, travel 20 years in the future to see what my life has become,
 
if you could live in any decade of thee 20th century, which one would you like to live in?- 1950’s. The "Happy Days"
 
what flavor gum/mints do you prefer?  Cinnamon, spearmint or wintergreen- cinnamon.  (fyi- I hate anything spearmint.  Wintergreens ok)
 
if there was one day where God said "Everyone can do whatever they want (except for murder) and its a freebie day" what would you do?- Lose my virginity!  To someone I’m attracted to, of course. 
 
If God was sitting next to you right now (you can see Him) and you can ask him one question, what would it be?- Who is my future husband?
 
Do you remember where you were and what you were doing when you found out Princess Di  had died?- I was up watching tv.  It was 11:30 on a Saturday night and they interrupted Saturday Night Live with the news
 
How about the news about JFK jr’s plane being missing?- I was in Massachusetts with Danielle visiting my friend, Ingrid.  We had the tv on when we heard the news.
 
How about when the Challenger blew up?  I was at home from school (it was parent-teacher conference day).  I was in seventh grade.
 
How about the Oklahoma City bombing?- I was at work (at Foodland) when one of the customers mentioned it.  She also mentioned there was a day-care center and many of the children had been hurt or killed.  I felt sick to my stomach for the rest of the day.
 
did you ever have a Cabbage Patch Doll?- yes
 
if yes, what was her/his/their name(s)?  Nadine Caitlin.  Danielle had one too. Her name was Brianna Rosa.
 
did you ever give your Barbie dolls haircuts?- yes.
 
Favorite Loony Tunes character?- Daffy Duck. 
 
Have you ever walked out of a movie theatre because the movie was so awful? No, fortunately.
 
Movie you have seen the most in the theatre- tie between Terminator 2 and Beauty And The Beast (each 5 times!)
 
comic strip character(s) who is/are most like you- Andy Fox (she’s a writer and the voice of reason), Lucy Van Pelt (she’s crabby and bossy ) and Garfield (loves food and relishes in his laziness!)
 
Disney character who is most like you- Belle (Beauty and the Beast)
 
Well, that’s all for now.  Until next time, Anne, take care and God bless!
 
Michele