m - 3 october 2001
From: Michele
Sent: Wednesday, October 03, 2001 10:47 AM
Subject: need your advice!
Hi Anne!
I’m sorry but today’s e-mail will be kinda short. I have to be leaving for work in a little bit, but I just wanted to write to you about something. I will write a longer e-mail when I get home from work tonight!
First of all, thanks for answering my engagement question. I agree with you. At least a year. This is why I asked the question in the first place:
As you know Danielle and Brian had their one month anniversary the other night. He gave her this really cute dolphin ring (she loves dolphins and lighthouses) Danielle said to me, "Michele, when he gave me the ring box, my heart started pounding. I thought it was an engagement ring!" To which I replied logically, "Well, I hope you would have told him it was too soon to even think about getting married." Danielle said, "If he really did propose, I would have said yes." WOAH! They’ve only been dating for ONE MONTH! And it wasn’t even like they knew each other a long time before they started dating! I keep on telling her that its best to date for at least a year minimum, but she keeps on resisting that idea. I told her "Believe me, a year will go by so fast, it will be worth the wait."
Also, my mom really got on my nerves (since when is that new?) She chewed me out saying that Danielles personal life is none of my business and that she is an adult now …. blah, blah, blah. Yes, I know Danielle is an adult and she has every right to live her life the way she wants too. But I’m just trying to give her the best advice that I can. So I said to my mom, "Oh, come on. Don’t tell me you would have nothing to say if Danielle and Brian got engaged after dating only a month!" And my mom said, "No I wouldn’t." She is lying! Either that or she just wants us to get married and out of the house, never mind that we might be making a mistake! I’m just so sick and tired of her treating me like a child and not respecting my opinion!
One more thing- please tell me your thoughts about this- Other than that meaningless, very unromantic kiss Harry gave me on our only date, I’ve never been kissed. Part of me wants to wait until my wedding day to kiss my husband, and the other part just wants to attack him on our first date! (lol). Do you think I’m wierd for wanting to wait until I’m married to even kiss a guy? I just think kissing is a very special, very intimate thing and I only want to kiss my husband! People might think I’m this virginal prude but it’s the opposite! I think a kiss will be the undoing of my virginity, because if I’m kissing a man who really turns me on, I know I’m not going to want to stop there! I just- I feel really strongly about this, and the man who is my soul mate is going to have to understand this. Of course he will. After all, I’m trusting God completely with my love life. My future husband will respect my feelings. I mean, Danielle and Brian have already had their first kiss (on their third date) but who’s to say that Brain is THE ONE? ANd she’s had kissed other men before. I just want to save EVERYTHING I have for one man.
gotta go now. Sorry this is pretty short. Have a great day! Take care and God bless!
Michele
