Chix Chat

Hi Anne!

I’ll try to make this letter longer- but it’s getting pretty late and I have to go to work tomorrow morning! (Blech!). I hate it when I work til 9, then have to come in the next morning!

Remember I told you about that site for bald guys (you know Mitch and Arnold’s pics were on it?) Well, I don’t know if I told you that I signed the guest book.  Well, some guy wrote to me!  His name is Mike and he thanked me for my comments.  He said that when he was younger he played in a band and he had long hair.  When he started losing it, he was very self conscious about it.  He cut his hair short but he was still a bit apprehensive about his baldness.  He told me he was thinking about just shaving his head and when he read my comments in the guest book, he decided to go for it!  Ah!  And to think there might be one more sexy bald man out there- all because of me!

Oh, I hate it when I set the VCR timer wrong!  I once set it to tape a program from 8 to 9.  I set the VCR up from 7:59 to 8:01!  What an idiot!

So Buffy gave you nightmares?  BOO!  Sorry if I scared you!

I hope you did well on the test!  What was it on, anyway?

Thank you for not thinking I’m wierd for wanting to wait until I’m married to kiss someone.  The only exception is if I were dating Arnold Vosloo!  (LOL)  No, seriously, I know I am going to be wildly attracted to my husband, whoever he may be and this is why it is impertive to me that my future husband will be a Christian and the spiritual leader in our relationship.  I want him to say to me on our first date, "Michele, you are an incredibly beautiful woman and I would like to kiss you, but you need to understand that I only want to kiss my wife on our wedding day.  Who knows, it might be you, but we can’t say for now.  I would like us to pursue this slowly and with God’s guidence."  Yeah, I know, what are the chances of me finding a man like that?

From the answers I’ve been getting so far concering my "engagement" question- the average answer is one year.  You also have to take into consideration how long you knew the person before you started dating.  Two people could have been childhood friends and known each other forever.  If they get engaged after only a few months of dating, I don’t think it’s as bad as two people who had just met only a few months ago.  FYI, Danielle only knew Brian about a month before he asked her out, so I still say she should wait at least a year.  I tried to tell Danielle that her relationship with Brian is still in the "infactuaction" stage (you know, the Rod Stewart song?).  Infactuation looks feels and acts like love but it fails the two tests:  The test of time and the test of negative circumstances.  There is no possible way you can know someone after dating only a month.  Besides the dating process tends to conceal, not reveal, because you’re putting your best face forward.  Another thing that bothers me- Danielle isn’t clear as to whether Brian is a Christian or not.  She knows he believes in God, but I don’t think she realizes how important it is that the man be the spiritual leader in the realationship.  I’m not saying I want my husband to be carrying a Bible and spouting verses all day long- but I hope you understand what I mean!

I always said that my future husband has to have these four qualites: A)He has to be a Christian B)He has to be a hard worker (but not a workaholic!) C)I have to be attracted to him (that’s a given) and D)He has to treat me like a princess.  Oh I should add one more quality E) He has to have a healthy attitude about sex.  I’m not saying I want a man who slept with the entire neighborhood.  Just like me, he can be a sexual virgin.  Ok, if not a virgin a sexual man who hasn’t had sex for quite awhile because he’s "saving" himself for his future wife!

Think about this:  If Arnold Vosloo was a virgin and if he was saving himself for his wife- would you think him any less of a man?  I wouldn’t!  He would be even more sexy and manly to me!  Of course he isn’t a virgin.  He’s been married twice, but I’d like to think his two wives were the only women he’s been with.  Drat!  How can I get rid of wife #2 so I  can be wife #3? (insert devilish laugh here)

Some people fear if they wait until they’re married to have sex, the honeymoon is going to be awkward.  I’m like "ARE YOU KIDDING?"  I must have fantasised about making love so many times I know more what to do than some people who are doing it!  I ganurtee you that a man who’s slept around knows when he’s making love to a virgin, because she will be more passionate and sensual than a woman who’s slept with every Tom, Dick and Harry.  I’m sure the more people someone has had sex with, the more they’re just "going though the motions".

on that note, I’ll say bye for now!  Take care and God bless!

Michele