Chix Chat

From: "Anne"
Date: Fri, 12 Oct 2001 16:11:12 -0500
Subject: State of the Headless Chicken
 
Hi, Michele!
 
It’s been crazy here today. With work? Nah, with websites what else! I got my domain! It was up yesterday, just as they said it would be. So far, I am very impressed with that company. Anyway, here it is: http://www.neloo.com/ - I can hear you now: "say what?" I pronounce it "Knee-loo." Here is my (lengthy) explanation of it: sometimes I abbreviate my name N but then I think N with an E equals NE and LOO comes from my last name. NELOO is also a way cuter arrangement of Loo-Knee. The main reason I chose it is that it’s short and since it doesn’t really mean anything I can make it mean whatever I want. There’s nothing much there yet, just something to point people to my other sites. I really need to come up with a design for that thing and soon!
 
I know what you mean about not taking any chances with those terrorist attacks. Can you believe all of these cases of anthrax? And "the man" keeps telling us that it isn’t the work of terrorists. Well, I want to know whose work it is and pronto! When I heard of that huge benefit concert that many famous people are attending, I began worrying because they would be a really good terrorist target.
 
Speaking of taking chances, I also wonder about meeting people on-line. Besides the definite issue of wondering/worrying about "what is this guy hiding? A wife? The fact that he’s a creep? The fact that he’s the size of a hippopotamus?" I also think, "What if he gets my email and sends me weird messages and won’t leave me alone?" So far, praise the Lord, nothing like that has happened. It’s more a case of emailing people a few times and then losing touch. Oh yes! This morning I was checking my CrossDaily mail when an instant message popped up from Osama159. Osama? Osama! The message said "Hi, looloobelle" I was going to ignore it but decided to write back and politely excuse myself with the "I am at work right now; bye!" line. I wrote back "Hello." The next minute the instant message screen disappeared. Was it something I said? Maybe he didn’t see the "o". . .
 
You’re having a three day weekend? And just how, pray tell, did you manage that? Where can I get one? I am holding on until the Thanksgiving holidays . . .
 
To answer your video questions: I’d estimate that I have about fifty movies on tape. Most of those are ones that I taped off of the telly. I haven’t seen Shrek yet, but I plan to. Isn’t Mike Myers the voice of Shrek? I have the biggest crush on Austin Powers. (Yeah, baby, yeah!) I do not have any AV movies yet, but I’ll quickly add that I plan to get them soon. I still have to see The Mummy Returns. Okay, okay, I will watch it soon; stop twisting my arm already! I will watch the fine man in the loincloth; are you happy now?
 
I don’t mind a bit that you read what I wrote Danielle. I really tried to put some thought into the answers. I’m glad to hear that she’s not planning to rush into anything.
 
Ah, yes. Chris Holland. (She says with a dreamy sigh; it was a really good dream.) I seem to remember most about him from ninth grade. I don’t recall ever speaking to him much, but then again in high school I didn’t really speak to anyone much. It’s funny you mention it, because I also wondered if the dream could mean he was going to come back into my life. I would positively freak out if I saw him anytime soon. Can’t you picture it? I’d be thinking, "There he is! It’s amazing; the dream must’ve been some sort of sign!" And I’d run over to him, "Hey Chris! Here I am!" And he’d ask, confused, "Who are you?" Seriously, I did say a little prayer for him since he appeared so clearly and so out-of-the-blue in my dream like that.
 
Do you have big plans for the weekend? Here, I’ll probably make some time to drive by the police station: I miss Randy! (lol) I only have two homework problems to do: woo hoo! I have plenty of tapes to watch: Charmed, Buffy (and hopefully The Mummy Returns … woo hoo! Plus Sara has to go to a meeting at ***** tomorrow so I should have a moment of free time: woo hoo! Plus, I have no gigs scheduled: woo hoo! I also plan to not answer the phone.
 
That’s it for today. Have a great weekend! God bless!
 
Anne
 
God bless the USA!!

From: Michele
Sent: Thursday, October 11, 2001 8:39 PM
Subject: Mr. President! Mr. President!

Hi Anne!

The president is on right now as I’m typing this.  Can I listen and type at the same time?  We shall see .  Can you believe it’s been a month since "IT" happened?  I got a disturbing e-mail today warning not to go to the malls on October 31.  Maybe you got it too.  Anyway, I don’t know if it’s a hoax or not, but I’m not taking any chances.  I put a request off on that day.

I had a long day at work.  I was supposed to be done at 4:30, but Kristin called off and I voluntereed to stay until 6:30.  Gulp!  What was I thinking?!  Seriously, though, it wasn’t so bad.  I’m just so tried, though.  Since I’m a night owl, going to bed late and getting up early for work so many days in a row is taking its toll.  If I can just get through tomorrow, I’ll have a three day weekend.  Woo-hoo!

That’s good that you’re making friends thru the Cross Daily site.  I still have my reservations about placing an ad.  It’s like, I want to have a boyfriend, but I get scared, but if I met some guy and he wanted to be "just friends" I’d be frustrated, but … you get my point.  That guy, Mike e-mailed me a couple more times.  He seems like a nice guy, and I don’t think he’s married.  At least he hasn’t said yet.  So ok, so what if he isn’t married?  He could be A)gay B)a physco C)A satanist D)ugly (and I mean UGLY) E) fat (and I mean like "break the scales" fat F)A drug user/dealer G)whatever else wrong I could think of.  And why the heck am I even fretting over this anyway?  I know I said I could never "date" anyone on-line but my point is if I’m to trust totally in God, shouldn’t I just relax and let him lead me where he takes me?  If God says "yes" to meeting someone on-line, then why should I say no?

Hmmm… could your dream about Chris Holland possibly mean that he will be in your future?  How was he with you in school?  Friendly?  Stuck up?  Didn’t know you existed?  The professor in your dream is right: it is a tough subject!  I’m assuming the subject is love.

I had Danielle read what you wrote about her and Brian (hope you don’t mind!).  What  you said about my primary concern is that she doesn’t get hurt hit the nail on the head.  Ok, maybe it’s a tad of envy, but I just want what’s best for her.  Danielle assured me that even if she didn’t wait a year to get engaged, she wouldn’t just "jump into" anything.  Huge sigh of relief here!

No, Danielle never considered marrying anyone before.  Danielle is her first boyfriend.  SHe’s been out on a lot of dates, but he’s her first boyfriend.  No, he isn’t divorced.  He lived with a girl, but she turned out to be a physco.  I don’t think he’ll have that problem with Danielle.

Hey!  I have some more questions for you A) Do you have a lot of movies on video?  B)Do you have any Arnold Vosloo movies on video?  C)Are you going to get any AV videos ?

Speaking of videos- I rented a really good movie yesterday- Memento.  In a nut shell it’s about a guy who is trying to find the man who raped and murdered his wife.  But the twist is that he only has a short term memory and how he "remembers" things is by constantly taking pictures (poloroids) and writing notes.  The movie goes backwards- the end is at the beginning and vice versa.  You have to watch it very closely and turn your brain on.

I ordered Shrek from my video club.  Have you seen it yet?  It’s really cute.  Don’t ask me how many videos I have!  Probably about 200 or so!

Well, that’s about it for now.  I hope you have a great weekend!  Until next time, take care and God bless!  God bless the USA!

Michele

From: "Anne"
Date: Thu, 11 Oct 2001 15:46:46 -0500
Subject: Curiouser and curiouser
 
Hi, Michele!
 
I’ll say it again: no need to apologize for a short letter!
 
Yep, Rod Stewart. (Insert high-pitched fan scream here.) They said tickets were still available, but probably in the nose-bleed section. I don’t know how much the tickets were. I’d guess about $50.
 
Ah, yes: Crocodile Dundee, part 3(?) - that Antany is still sending me short notes at Cross Daily asking me to write him at his other email. And have my activity rating at CD go down? I don’t think so. I was chatting with some guy a week or two ago, Peter-john is his name. He is 39 and also from Australia. He seems like a lot of fun - we have been emailing back a forth a bit. Some other guy from the US (Georgia, I think) sends me one long paragraph; oddly enough that guy’s name is Randy. (Randy sent me one today titled "Thinking of you" - I haven’t even responded to the one he sent on Tuesday.) Of course none of these guys has posted a picture with his profile. Basically, there are no good dating prospects, but I’m meeting some nice on-line friends.
 
Speaking of dating, I had a really weird but good dream last night. Chris Holland, a guy I went to school with, showed up at my house and suddenly wanted to date me. I haven’t seen him or even thought of him for years. It was so strange; in the dream he was everywhere I was. We were sitting in the den and my mom came home and I was trying to introduce him… it was so weird. Let me describe Chris for you: he is tall and manly looking, blond haired with blue eyes. And in school he was so fun; really a cut-up. He was one of the A-list people in our small high school; you know, Mr. Popular who played basketball and dated cute girls. In the same dream I received back a second test paper with a score of 19, or possibly a negative 1.9, and all my professor could say was, "Yep, this is a tough subject."
 
Which brings me to another tough subject: Danielle and Brian. I bet that if the two of you were talking about someone else in her situation, she would absolutely agree with you that the couple should date a year at least before getting engaged. For something as important as this I do *not* think that you should paste on a fake smile and nod at whatever she says. However, from my experience I can tell you that shouting, "You’re ruining your life!" is not the most effective route to take. (You have seen this as well, I’m sure.) I know when I’m trying to convince Sara of something, I try to approach the subject very casually at an opportune moment, that is when we haven’t just been arguing about it. For example, if she was in Danielle’s place, I might casually and non-accusingly say something like, "I know if *I* was thinking of getting married, I’d want to be sure that the guy was the one. Remember (insert divorced couple that you know well here)? They were so in love and then suddenly they weren’t. I don’t think I could stand the pain of divorce." Okay, maybe that looks a little staged; I see your point that it’s tough to know exactly what to say! Of course I wouldn’t say it like some drama queen; I’d simply state it as I would most of the things I say. My objective would be to get *her* to really think for herself about whatever point I was trying to make. I think the key things to remember are to not have an accusing tone and to let her know that your primary concern is that she doesn’t get hurt.
 
I think of the sincere yet earnest way Chell asked me "Why are you wasting your time?" True, that is a bit accusing, but she didn’t say it in an exasperated "oh what is your problem?!" tone. She said it in a way that implied I should give an answer … it’s tough to describe. It was even tougher to realize that I didn’t have an answer. (If you think about it, there is no good answer to that particular question.)
 
About this Brian thing: that’s another toughie for me since I’m not there. (I say that like I’d know more if I were there: yeah right!) Maybe the best thing to do about that is to keep an eye peeled to see if you spot any other behavior that supports your fears. You could also listen to what Danielle says to see if you hear her mention the same.
 
I’m curious: has Danielle ever considered marrying anyone before? And did you say that Brian was divorced? (I tried to look that up in our previous emails, but I didn’t see it.)
 
That’s it for today. Talk to you soon: God bless!
 
Anne
 
God bless the USA!

From: Michele
Sent: Wednesday, October 10, 2001 10:52 PM
Subject: too tired to type!

Hi Anne!

Love Rod Stewart!  Love "Do Ya Think I’m Sexy!"  Too bad you couldn’t make it to the concert.  Out of curiousity, do you know how much the tickets were?

The weather here has been beautiful as well.  Today it went up to 75!  Alas, this isn’t going to last very long.  Time to get the winter jacket out of storage.

Hey!  How are things going with you and that Aussie guy?  What was his name?  Crocodile Dundee? (snicker). You haven’t mentioned him lately, so I guess nothing really is happening.  Have you gotten any other responses from that Crossdaily site?

That’s cool that you registered your own domain name.  Yes, please give it to me when you’re sure that you have it!  As for me, I’m still trying to figure out my own website!  Shoot, I even forgot the address that I used for it.  I hope I have it written down somewhere!

Danielle was typing a letter to her friend and I just happened to glance over her shoulder (I wasn’t snooping-honest!) and I read this line "I really think Brian and I will be engaged in a few months".  ACCK!!  Isn’t anything what I have said sinking in?!  I don’t think she realizes the importance of GOING SLOWLY!  Ok Anne, should I just shut my mouth and let her make a mistake?  Or should I keep my "date at least a year" campaign?  Maybe I should just shut my mouth- after all she hasn’t listened to me before, why start now?

One thing does bother me about Brian.  This is tiny, but I don’t know, a "wrong" buzzer just rang in the back of my head.  He and Danielle went into the Hallmark store the one night that I was working.  Danielle got a card and he had paid for it.  Nothing wrong with that, right?  But it was just how he demanded that he pay for it.  Danielle kept on saying "It’s just a card.  I’ll pay for it" and he was like "You better put your money back in your wallet".  It was like he didn’t take no for an answer.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for men paying for women when they go out to eat and paying for some things- but paying for everything?  I mean, say I’m at the mall with my boyfriend and I buy something from every store we go into.  Do I really expect he’s going to pay for everything?  Maybe I’m reading too much into this, but could that little "you better put your money back in your wallet?"  be the seed of a future controlling husband?  I guess you had to be there to understand how I feel.

Sorry this letter is pretty short, but it’s almost 12 and I have to get up early to go to work.  See Ya later!  Take care and God bless!

GOD BLESS THE USA!!

Michele

From: "Anne"
Date: Wed, 10 Oct 2001 16:38:09 -0500
Subject: Breaking news
 
Hi, Michele!
 
Yes, the candles smell fabulous! I left one here to enjoy and took the rest home.
 
Apparently Rod Stewart will be in concert tonight about a block away from where I am right now. Isn’t that exciting? Yeah, I didn’t think so. If he was here right now as I was typing this, THAT would be exciting. I’d tell him, "If you want my body, and you think I’m sexy, come on, sugar, let me know!" It’s a nice day here for his concert, Cloudless blue sky, sunny, and warm but not hot.
 
Re: my website, I guess I need to update that thing. (I have a new SERVICE! story from my Mom and it is a doozy!) I’m thinking of linking from the Angel site to mychezanne, but I just don’t know if I want those radical Angel fans visiting my site. I like being the mysterious "webmistress Anne" - I am not ready for them to know all that info about me. Likewise, I might omit the link from mychezanne to Angel’s Secrets. I mostly send that link to people I meet at that CrossDaily site; if they surf over to Angel’s Secrets they’ll find that it has some NC-17 fanfiction. (Is your jaw dropping with shock?) I haven’t read any of it, but I know it’s there and I’d hate for them to think less of me because of it.
 
I saw your guestbook signing - thanks! I told my sister that you were going to support me after those mean messages. (Meanies!)Oh and I have thought of writing to people as David, but I’m sure somehow it would backfire on me. I’m actually surprised that no one’s written to me pretending to be him.
 
Speaking of websites, today I registered for my own domain name! I’ll tell you what it is when I’m sure that I have it. They told me that it would be ready to "upload" to by this time tomorrow. I am getting some pages ready to go onto it. Of course now it’ll be very basic. I’ll just put a "this site is under construction" note and direct visitors to my other sites. I think I’ll like having my own domain; those free sites have a lot of restrictions, plus the annoying/ugly ads. I’ll still keep "mychezanne" but I’ll slowly work towards moving stuff to the other site.
 
I know what you mean about posting messages. (I have posted something and then found a spelling mistake or a word that should have been included.) I need to post something on the prayerboard myself, but I fret over what exactly the subject line should say, what the message should say, etc. I liked your suggestions; what do you think of "Dreamy Cop Wanted"? That’s not really a prayer request, is it. Okay then, "Lord, please send me a Dreamy Cop." Heck, a dreamy accountant would be great at this point!
 
Re: Brian and Danielle, I thought you had said that he seems like a good guy, *so* unlike that jerk Allen that Sara knew. I imagine that doesn’t help the jealousy quotient; at least when the guy is scum, you can comfort yourself that, well, the guy is scum. When he’s a good guy, it’s like, "I want one!!" I try to tell myself that one day I’ll have someone great and others will be the ones that are jealous. I usually then ask myself, "WHEN?!"
 
That’s all for today. Talk to you soon! God bless!
Anne
 
God bless the USA!

From: Michele
Sent: Tuesday, October 09, 2001 9:37 PM
Subject: Yes, I should!

Hi Anne!

You’re very welcome about the gifts.  I’m glad you liked them.  Don’t the candles smell WONDERFUL?  My favorites are aloe vera and plumeria.  Just don’t burn them all at once- or else you’ll get a headache!

I went into the angel site and signed the guest book.  Something short and stupid.  I didn’t post my e-mail address because I didn’t want anyone to write to me.  They be talking about the show and I’d be like "Duh … I have no idea what you’re talking about."  You are doing a fine job, my friend!

No, I don’t think anyone has posted anything on the prayerboard.  I’m still thinking of what I want to write how bout "Pray that I find a man?"  Hmm… would that be too cheesy? Even more specific- "Pray that Arnold Vosloo leaves his wife and marries me?"

For the people who sign your Angel guestbook and leave messages to David- why don’t you mess with their heads and write back pretending you’re him? (wicked laugh).  I’m sure that thought has crossed your mind a time or two.

Speaking of posting messages, have you ever posted one and when you re-read it you discovered to your horror that you spelled a word wrong?  That happened to me a couple times.  I’m like, "D’oh!  now everyone is going to think I’m a moron!"

Boy am I glad someone is in that "love boat" with me!  I think Sara’s situation with that jerk might be a little different than Danielle’s situation with Brian because Brian seems like a pretty decent guy.

Yes, there is absoulutely no doubt that my husband will be a Christian.  I will know the moment that we meet.  How will I know?  I just will.  He will have a peace about him.  I imagine he’ll be weaing a cross either on a chain or on his shirt or even a tatoo of a cross on his muscular arm.  Sigh.  The point is, I’ll just know.

that’s all for now.  Til next time, take care and God bless!  God bless the usa!

Michele

From: "Anne"
Date: Tue, 9 Oct 2001 16:16:51 -0500
Subject: Awww!! You shouldn’t have!
 
Hi, Michele!
 
Thanks for the congrats! I’m so very glad that I got a 98; it’s a miracle! I am breathing much easier now. Until the next time …
 
I also wonder what’s up with that site. I read somewhere that Yahoo! is losing money on Geocities so they’re trying to get people to buy services from Geocities. The non-paying people will now have those annoying pop-up ads. I wonder if those ads are messing it up.
 
Anyway, I’m glad that you like the message board (the "prayerboard"). Has anyone posted anything yet? I checked two weeks ago and no one had; lately I’ve been working on the Angel shite Here’s the link http://www.geocities.com/~angelsecrets/ - lately when I check the guestbook I brace myself to see a negative comment, but the last few have been okay. People keep leaving messages to David in *my* guestbook; that is really annoying! One person asked me if I knew David or anyone on the show because she wants to be an actress. If it was as easy as emailing some chick on a webpage I would be an actress myself! (I’m pausing here to think of love scenes with David …)
 
I am the same way about posting messages: I will edit my thoughts a dozen time before I get the "final draft." Even then I ponder over whether or not it’s what I really want to say.
 
So you saw my man? And he’s thinking of (ravishing) me? That’s so sweet! (lol) Just today I found a new picture of him to add to the site, and I gotta tell ya he looks great! Sometimes I think, "Yeah, he’s alright." In the right light though … grrowwwlll!
 
Speaking of growling - you had an argument with Danielle about Brian yesterday? I am sorry to hear that. I think I’ve been on both sides; I remember years ago Sara was hanging out with this obnoxious jerk. Mom and I both couldn’t stand him, but we couldn’t tell her anything that she’d listen to. She was so happy during that time. This is the guy that hung out with her for two weeks then borrowed $80 from her and disappeared. (Thinking about that now, my blood boils all over again!) My point is that it’s very tough to be in that situation, I know.
 
I also know that it’s tough from the jealousy standpoint too. All I can say is "I’m in that lifeboat with you!"
 
I always enjoy hearing Dr. Dobson’s advice. Re: being unequally yoked, we were just discussing that at church on Sunday. It is so true that a Christian needs to be with another Christian. I have plenty to say about that, but I’m running out of time for today…
 
Last but not least, I got the goodies that you sent. Thank you!! You really didn’t have to! (That’s what I kept saying to myself as I was giddily opening each one: "Awww! She didn’t have to do this!") It’s all so lovely! The candles! The book! The card! The frame (if only I had a sweetie pie’s picture to include …)! Shucks, I’m touched . . . I may cry!
 
That’s about it for today. I have to go look at my goodies - those candles are making it smell nice in here! Talk to you soon!
Anne
 
PS - Thanks again!

From: Michele
Sent: Tuesday, October 09, 2001 9:24 AM
Subject: Hooray! She got an A!!!

Hi Anne!

Congrats on getting an A on your test!  Are you breathing a little bit easier now?  I know the feeling of anticipation someone gets between the time they take the test and the time they get their grade.  It’s like ‘pass or fail, I just want to know!’  Heres to many more AYYYYYs (as the Fonz would say!}

I was able to get into your site yesterday.  I wonder why some days I can and some days I  can’t.  Has anyone else mentioned problems getting into it?.  I like the message board on your praise page.  I was going to write something but at the time my brain took a vacation.  I’m the type of person who has to think awhile before I post something on the internet.  I have to make sure everything is perfect.  I’m my worst critic.  I have a slew of messages posted on the enigmamusic.com messageboard and I must edit and re-edit them a dozen times before I click on that "post message" button!

Anne, what’s the address for the Angel site again?  I want to post a POSITIVE comment on the message board.  Even though I don’t watch Angel, I want to give you support!  And I promise I won’t tell you the site looks like "shite". (lol)

speaking of Angel… on E! the other day there was a special on Buffy and they did a little segment on Angel.  I saw your man!  He said, "I love you Anne ***** in *****!"  He said he’s going to take you away in the middle of the night and ravish you!

speaking of being ravished I’m glad you enjoyed the Bald r us site.  Yes, bald men are very sexy!  As for them being bald "all over"  I hope they are! (back hair and excessive chest hair is a definite turn off).  Well, except for … um… you know.. the shaft of his being (as you would say).  I’m picturing Arnold Vosloo right now without the sarong thing he wore in the Mummy and TMR. (Michele closes her eyes sighes and smiles wickledly)

Danielle and I had sort of an "arguement" about Brain yesterday, and I’m afraid I didn’t handle myself too well.  I told her yet again that she shouldn’t be spending every waking moment with him and instead of just letting it go, I kept on hounding her about it.  I realize now that I should just shut up about it.  I just don’t want to see her get hurt!  Ok, I also admit that I’m jealous.  I just want her to spend time with me.  I want it to be like was before- both of us two lonely souls, on the same boat.  Now I feel that Danielle has been handed a life preserver and I’m still stuck on that stupid boat…. and it’s sinking fast!

I like "don’t marry the one that you can live with; marry the one that you can’t live without."  Dr. James Dobson says that.  That is true!  He also said not to jump into a marraige after a brief courtship, don’t marry someone who has a character trait or a behavior problem that you aren’t willing to live with for the rest of your lives, if you are a Christian don’t be "unequally yoked" with an unbeliever and that a sucessful marraige is a by product of an iron willed determination to make it work.  Sound advice to me.

Well, gotta go now.  I have to be leaving for work pretty soon.  Til next time, take care and God bless!  God bless the USA!

Michele

From: "Anne"
Date: Mon, 8 Oct 2001 16:41:21 -0500
Subject: I believe the Fonz said it best . . .
 
Hi, Michele!
 
Yep, it’s Monday again. (Blech!) Apparently the US is still bombing Afghanistan. Needless to say, I was more than a little depressed about that yesterday evening. Like you, I don’t want to talk about it much; I could not bear to watch another moment of Peter Jennings and his somber face.
 
My site is down again?!?! Thanks for including the error message that you get. I’ve tried to get onto the site today and it worked. I wonder if it’s giving me a version of the page that’s saved on this computer. I need to go to the library and check how it appears. I need to hurry up and get my own domain name and start my own site. I just wonder if my tech skills are up to that.
 
On the Angel site I found two mean messages telling me the site looks like "shite." For pete’s sake - if they’re going to insult me they could at least spell it correctly! The good thing about that guestbook is that such entries are very easy to delete. You know, I really don’t see how people that like Angel don’t like that site. Okay there’s a lot of girlie pink/flowers/etc. But if they could just deal with the background a minute and look at what’s on the site: there are over 200 pictures of David. There’s plenty of fanfiction to read, episode reviews, a message board, the Question of the Moment. I just don’t get it. I’d like to tell those people, "Don’t like it? Well, don’t let the virtual door hit your butt on the way out!" Oh well. Wasn’t it Abe Lincoln that said, "You can’t please all of the people all of the time"?
 
Happy Day! We got our tests back today! What was my grade? Aaaaayyyyyyyy! (You know, like the Fonz always says . . .) It’s a miracle! I may cry!
 
Is this day a roller coaster ride of emotion or what?
 
Oh, I can testify about the "love high" point that you mentioned. It is so true and I agree 100% that it is critical to date at least a year before marriage for that reason. Imagine trying to build a relationship on those "love high" feelings which are also partly "In love with the idea of love" feelings. It’s like you said, just a physical reaction. Through in a little infatuation and you have very intense but very unstable and temporary feelings.
 
Let me share some more "bookmark" wisdom with you: "don’t marry the one that you can live with; marry the one that you can’t live without." I think that is so true. I know when I’d *briefly* think of marrying some loser I was dating (and I can’t emphasize enough that these were very brief, infrequent thoughts) I would be, like, "Whatever." I could definitely take it or leave it; I mostly saw myself leaving it! I think we’ve mentioned this before; ask yourself before marrying, "Am I excited at the idea of a marriage or just at the thought of my wedding?" In my case, the answer was just "excited at the thought of a wedding." And that is definitely not enought to build on. After the "high" of the wedding there’s no place to go but down. Imagine some BLECH guy wanting to BLECH with you?
 
Oh, yes. I had my dentist appointment on Friday. Some new bigoted lady was cleaning my teeth although the same hygienist lady that’s always done it was there. What’s the story on that, I wonder. I told the new lady and then the dentist that I didn’t want any bad news. (You’ve got to lay down the law for these guys!) I fully expected the doctor to tell me another cavity needed to be filled. He said, "Well, we’ll see you in six months. How’s that?" That will work!
 
That’s it for today. I’ll talk to you soon! God bless!
 
Anne
 
God bless the USA!
 
PS: Happy Columbus Day!
That reminds me of that Bugs Bunny cartoon about Christopher Columbus. I love the part where "Chris" is trying to convince the king that the world is round. "She’s a-round! Like my head!" he says. BONK!! The king hits Chris in the head with a pan and replies, "She’s flat like your head."

From: Michele
Sent: Sunday, October 07, 2001 6:21 PM
Subject: Nite Owl

Hi Anne!

Well, it’s Friday night and I can stay up as late as I want because I’m off work tomorrow!  Woo-hoo!  Danielle, Shelly and I are going to the movies tomorrow.  We are going to see "Don’t Say A Word." 

Thanx for answering my dvd/computer question.  I don’t think my computer can play dvds . I might as well just go out and buy a dvd player.  As far as waiting for when the price goes down- I think they have gone down.  I think you can buy a dvd player now for about $150 or so.  FYI- did you know the first VCRs were about $2,000?!  Now you can buy one for less than $100.

Anne, your site is down again!!  WHen I try to get into it, all I get is a black screen and on it in red letters is this: This site is under construction dedicated to "citing the best on the net."  We are not affiliated with or endorse Yahoo corporation or their geocites subsidiary in any manner.  If you are looking for geocites, please contact them directly.  I wonder what the problem is!

RE: silly crush feelings fading.  THat’s another reason why I feel you should date at least a year before considering marriage.  I read somewhere (or maybe I saw on tv) that the first year of the relationship is when you’re on a "love high".  The object of your affection is perfect.  Everything he(or she) says or does just thrills you to death.  It’s biological. You know a chemical reaction.  After  a year, the "high" wears off.  Now, if you truly love the person, the feelings will still be there.  But if it was just a physical attraction, then well … if you went ahead after a few months of dating and got married, you’re screwed.  

I like what that bookmark says: "Chose only a date who would make a good mate."  It’s true.  Every person you go out with is a potential mate.  I used to think, "well, what’s the big deal if I went out on one date with someone who I couldn’t see myself marrying?"  It is a big deal!  I felt the same way about Chaz as you did about Ray (I’ll prove everyone wrong).  even though my situation is a bit different because Chaz and I never went out.  I used to get really annoyed at God.  "Come on, God.  Just one date with Chaz.  That’s all I want.  What’s it going to hurt?" I reasoned.  I know now why God said no to me.  First of all, I know myself and I wouldn’t have been satisfied with just one date.  I tried to "reason" to God that all I wanted was to be Chaz’s friend, and while that was true God also knew I was wildly attracted to Chaz.  Secondly, as Chell would put it, "Why would I waste my time?"  Even though Chaz was friendly with me and respected me, he wasn’t a Christian and had nothing to offer me.  Chaz was mostly a physical reaction.  I know my husband is going to evoke a physical, spiritual and emotional reaction.

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Hi again!  It’s now Sunday evening.  Sorry I stopped so abruptly before.  I did see Dont’ Say A Word yesterday.  Excellent movie!  It was one of those tense, edge of your seat suspense movies.  Michael Douglas is an excellet actor.

Well, war has begun over in Afghanastain (sp?)  I don’t want to talk about it too much. .  I’m praying for all the Americans overseas.  The Emmys were cancelled tonight.  A wise choice.  I dont’ think anyone is in the mood to celebrate at the moment.

Hey!  Arnold Vosloo was on E! News Daily the other day!  Yeah, he and The Rock were in California promoting the dvd and video release of TMR!  Dear lord he is so fu@*ing beautiful! (giggle, blush)

on that note, I’ll say bye for now!  God bless!  God bless the USA!

Michele