a - 5 october 2001
From: "Anne"
Date: Fri, 5 Oct 2001 12:45:40 -0500
Subject: All I need is a Miracle … bra
Hi, Michele!
He (aka "the Man") should have the test grades ready for us on Monday. In a way I hate to think that I did well - I’ll be disappointed and surprised when I get a bad grade. (I know I wrote that last time, but it’s true! I try not to count on getting a good grade.)
Re: DVD’s on computer - the computer has to have a special drive for that (I think it’s a DVD-Rom drive), but yes, there are some computers that play DVD’s. We don’t have a DVD player yet - we’re waiting for the price to go down like it did for the VCR’s.
We are on the same level again - boy, what a surprise! I’m not too worried about my Randy-crush fading. Last time I was going to write essentially what you said: "No use getting worked up over what isn’t meant to be." I remember thinking last week, as I was in the full throes of my crush, "Imagine if I was married and suddenly felt like this. This is one way marriages crumble: people don’t realize that these are silly crush feelings and think they are something more." That is along the lines of what you wrote about people marrying because they feel good then the marriages don’t last. Thankfully, with Randy, I didn’t do anything crazy like try to start dating him; I kept wondering, "Where would it go?" I mean sure, it’s very nice to really like someone, but you can’t build a marriage on a crush!
I agree with you about Danielle: if Brian isn’t the one she’s setting herself up for a big fall. I have been down that road myself: of wanting it to work but not really being practical about it. When I was with the church youth group, I read some good advice on a Christian bookmark: choose only a date that would make a good mate. I remember thinking at the time, "That is so lame." But now I see that it’s true. When I was with Ray, I remember Chell asking me quietly yet sincerely, "Why are you wasting your time?" That really struck a nerve. For a brief while, I tried to prove her wrong, but then reality finally set in. (Praise the Lord!) I *was* wasting my time and making it harder for myself to lose him further down the line. One good thing came out of all of it: I learned just how important it is to be very choosy about dating!
I was going to mention the "sexually compatible" thing last time too! I remember one girl in high school said about the subject of waiting until marriage, "What if the guy was no good?" (I’m paraphrasing: she said it a bit more crudely.) For one thing if you are a virgin you have no frame of reference. More importantly: I agree with you 100% that making love to the husband that you’ve prayed and waited for - there is NO WAY that you wouldn’t be compatible! Plus it would just get better as time goes on. (I admit that I’m coveting that sort of thing right now!)
On that note, I have to leave early today to (drive by the police station and) go to my dentist appointment. Have a great weekend! Talk to you soon!
God bless us all, every one!
Anne
"Some women get all excited about nothing and then marry him."
